What I learned from our first year of marriage

“Your wedding day is the best day of your life” isn’t just a saying. It is the absolute truth. It’s when your best friend becomes your husband and you begin this new journey together. Time has FLOWN BY and as I sit here and reflect on the past year, I wanted to share what I learned our first year of marriage.

The words I use the most: Thank you. It is thanking and appreciating my partner for everything he does for our family. Even the little things like doing the dishes or taking the trash out. My husband always thanks me for preparing dinner or cleaning the house, it is so nice to hear that he acknowledges my efforts! Acts of service is such an important love language to us.

After being together for an extended period of time, people will tell you marriage isn’t any different than dating, and it will not change anything. I find that statement to be wrong. Marriage IS different. I’ve never felt more connected to someone. I believe we understand one another better than ever before, and we work even better as a team. To put it simple, I learned marriage connects you at a much deeper level than dating did.

Make time for date nights! Because eating leftovers, drinking wine, and watching “The Bachelor” doesn’t qualify as a date night. As much as we love to do those things, it’s so important to go out of your way for a date night! Between spending time with family and friends it can be tough to coordinate a solo date night! You should continue to show up for each other at your best, just like you did when you first met.

I’m way more conscious of my decisions. The decisions I make don’t only affect me, but they affect my husband and us as a whole.

Remember those little things that use to annoy you when you were dating, like when he shaves and there is hair all over the sink? Yeah, those little things continue to annoy you, but don’t stress over the little things in life!

It’s true, you fall even more in love. I didn’t think it was possible, but oh it is! I’ve never been so in love with him and I swear it continues to grow daily. Our relationship has never been better! Plus, I can be my complete weirdo self around him. It truly is a privilege for us to be our true self around one another.

I’ve learned communication is key, let’s say you don’t mention something to your partner, but you continuously think about it, and then it turns into resentment. How can anything be resolved if your partner doesn’t know how you are feeling?! Communicate! The way we communicate to one another shows respect and active listening. I can say what is on my mind without fear of starting an argument.

I’m so excited to continue this journey together and see where forever takes us!

Stay Fearless,

& in love

Michelle Foster